What is the S.E.L.F.I.S.H. model?
Carolyn’s model was borne of a need to help women to shift their mindset about the concept of SELFISHness. Viewing it instead as essential to the pursuit of being your best self, her approach will ensure you’re better placed to care for others in your life by starting with you. It’s a dip-your-toe-in-the-water first step towards living differently. Better.
The elements of the S.E.L.F.I.S.H. model provide practical ways to prioritise yourself via a few simple steps, and doing so guilt-free.
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S is for Self-worth
You’ll never prioritise yourself if you don’t believe you’re worth it.
That’s why the model starts by addressing your internal narrative – because the person you’ll speak to most in your life is you.
Uncovering the stories you tell yourself, this first step is about ensuring those thoughts are constructive.
E is for Elimination
Do you tolerate toxic situations and people for too long?
If so, this element will help you to look across your life and see how some simple changes could drastically alter how you feel and increase your confidence to demand only positivity in your life.
L is for Loving life
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
When you have a life you love you’ll give off an aura that will bring the right people to you.
In this section you’ll articulate what that means for you and understand why it’s essential to knowing what you will and won’t accept in your life.
F is for Failure
Are you guilty of beating yourself up for your mistakes?
Changing your relationship with failures – past or present – is key to achieving a life without regret. This step is about reframing negatives and looking for the upside when things don’t go your way.
I is for Identity
You can’t love someone you don’t know.
Life lays so many labels upon us that it’s easy to lose sight of who you are. In this element you’ll focus in on reconnecting with your true self and placing a flag in the sand about the standards you’re going to set for yourself going forward.
S is for Sexiness
Would you like to be more confident?
What makes you attractive is your attitude to who you are. That’s why sexiness comes in many guises. Here we look at what constitutes confidence and how it’s entirely within your power to increase it.
H is for Help
Whether it’s asking for it or accepting it, sometimes we just need to grasp the nettle when it comes to help. Why do we find that so hard? In this final part of the model you’ll learn techniques for securing the help you need as well as getting comfortable with doing so.
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